Men`s Divorce Dating

Once upon a time, there was a poor man, with a poor man’s job, making a poor man’s salary. One day, while taking the bus home from work, he struck up a conversation with a rich man. At the end of the conversation, the rich man gave him $1000 as a gift.

The next week, the poor man saw the rich man again. They had another conversation and the rich man gave him another $1000. This went on week after week. After the 5^th week, the poor man began to see a pattern. With his new-found fortune, he went out took on new dept. He bought a new house, a new car, new clothes, and he even quit his poor man’s job. And week after week, the rich man continued to give him $1000.

But on the eleventh week, the rich man and the poor man met on the same bus and had another great conversation. At the end of the conversation, the poor man asked for his $1000. The rich man said he wasn’t going to give him any money today. When the poor man asked why not, the rich man said that he’d simply decided not to ever give the poor man any more money. From now on, the poor man would have to settle for polite conversation without monetary gain.

The poor man replied “You can’t do this to me. I’ve quit my job and I have debts. I’ll have to declare bankruptcy. I need the money to live!” The rich man simply said “Too bad, that’s not my problem”

The poor cursed the rich man for ruining his life and vowed never to speak to him again.

There are 2 ways you can look at this story. For the sake of argument, we’ll call them “Loser Mentality” and “Winner Mentality”.

“Loser Mentality”

The rich man used his position and wealth to manipulate the poor man. He created an expectation by making the poor man reliant on the weekly paycheque. This rich man was basically playing manipulative power games in order to destroy the poor man’s life.

“Winner Mentality”

The rich man gave the poor man $10,000. And the poor man didn’t appreciate it like he should’ve. Getting something for free TODAY doesn’t entitle you to get something for free TOMORROW, so just appreciate it while you have it.

The same thing applies in your personal relationships. In my experience, women are incredibly generous.

Most bitter breakups happen because the woman in the relationship gave and gave and gave. At some point, for whatever reason, she just decided to stop giving. Maybe she just needed to go find herself. Maybe she was depressed. Maybe she felt unappreciated. It doesn’t matter. The reason isn’t important.

Too often, men get a sense of expectancy, and becomes dependant on their woman’s love in order to feel good about themselves. Instead of appreciating the gift he’s received, they get angry at her for removing the foundation on which he’s built his emotional well-being.

This is a Loser Mentality. I can’t tell you how to make her come back. But I can almost GUARANTEE that she won’t come back until you change your attitude.

She doesn’t feel like she owes you anything, and she doesn’t want to carry your emotional baggage. No woman does.

Also, this bitterness you’re holding in will affect all of your future interactions with women. Without saying a word, women seem to just know how your last relationship ended. They are very intuitive, and they can sense when a man is desperate and needy. It’s very unattractive.

Instead, you need to develop a winner mentality. When a girl breaks up with you, set her free. Thank her for the beautiful gift she’s freely given you, wish her all the best. Help her get what she needs to be happy, and understand that this may mean she needs to start a new life without you.

As much as this may hurt, you’ll also be letting go of a lot of emotional baggage that’s preventing quality women from getting to know you.

The world is full of generous people who are willing to give and give and give without expecting anything in the return. But they pick their recipients very carefully, and they want someone who won’t take them for granted. Are you a winner or a loser?