Alone after divorce? Try these free speed dating tips
January 16, 2008 2:55 am UncategorizedSpeed dating events can be some of the Best places to meet women. Whether you live in New York, L.A., Montreal, San Diego, Boston or any other major city, there’s a speed dating company in your area.
Speed dating is half party, half musical chairs, and all cop. This convenient solution promises to slice, and dice, and even re-grow your thinning hair line.
Well, it might not be able to re-grow hair, or make home-made potato chips… but it is quickly gaining in popularity with older singles who want an alternative to dating sites. The 2 main questions are: Does it work, and will it work for you? You need to keep a few things in mind before you make your decision.
I guess the easiest way to explain speed dating would be to compare it to the old fashioned singles mixers of days gone by. An event management company would recruit a bunch of single people into one location. In the main hall, two areas are set up. The men take one circle, and the women take the other circle.
Each person is allotted a limited amount of time. Each sits down and starts conversing until their time runs out. After that, they switch to the next potential suitor. If there is a connection, you might trade contact information before the buzzer sounds.
The main idea of speed dating is simple. Once the first couple runs out of time, a bell goes off and everyone moves to his or her right. And the whole thing is repeated again until you run out of hot chicks to game.
Once you run out of girls, the event is concluded. Every guy has had the opportunity you meet several future prospects. Although they started small, I’ve recently seen some of these events get quite impressively large.
The only downfall to this approach to dating is the sheer amount of time you’ll have to spend with each girl. The entire concept is based on the idea that first impressions and gut instincts is all you need to generate a spark. But is can you really be expected to make a choice in whether or not to give out your phone number in just 5 minutes? I wouldn’t suggest speed dating to guys who are shy or not used to meeting new people in such a fast-paced environment.
I’ve heard mixed reviews as to the effectiveness of speed dating. It’s not every guy who’s suited to this type of matchmaking service. Although, it’s definitely something to experience.
Another drawback is that you’re only getting a superficial view of this person’s “best behaviour”. It’s all an act that they put on in hopes of catching Mr. or Mrs. Right. If you do find yourself connecting with a girl at one of these events, just keep in mind that this first impressions might not be a reflection of their true selves.
Speed dating might not be right for you. Maybe it goes against personality type. But don’t worry if you find yourself having doubts. It’s natural for everyone to feel a bit overwhelmed on their first try.
If you’re alone after divorce, I encourage you to give it a try. Who knows? You might meet your next wife. Worst case scenario: You meet lots of interesting girls who could become friends that introduce you to your next wife. Don’t worry about finding true love on your first night. Just take your time and have fun.